Jul 18, 2017
The question today is: why would we care so much about what other people think of us, and how are we allowing that to limit us?
That’s a question that hits me right between the eyes that I
have been grappling with on a daily basis the last couple of years,
and it also confronted this episode’s guest, Susan Kovacs. It
carried a lot of impact for her, especially because it came
out of the mind and mouth of her daughter.
Known as the “Game Changer,” Susan Kovacs is a sought-after,
straightforward coach to ambitious high performers. And her story
so far is fascinating and empowering.
30 years after being diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis and living those decades under the cloak of limitations suggested by both doctors and the disease, Susan competed in and completed her first triathlon. As you will hear, even deciding to try to do a triathlon, let alone completing one, was an enormous leap for her, both physically and spiritually.
Anyone who has ever doubted themselves for any reason is going to love this conversation.
Anyone who has ever listened to an outside influence, be it a parent or doctor or teacher or co-worker, and labelled themselves as unable to do something from that point forward will most definitely be able to relate to Susan.
I am completely confident that you will find her story incredibly uplifting.
There is a lot of great value to take away from Susan's story. Just some of the key elements that stood out to me included:
- Identity vs authenticity and a question from her
daughter - About a half hour into our discussion, Susan
talked about how she recognized that so much of her identity was
wrapped up in being a wife and mother and a people-pleaser. When
her daughter asked her why she cared so much about what other
people thought of her, she realized that she had an “identity” but
that was not necessarily an accurate reflection of who she
authentically.
2. Hitting “delete” on the self-talk tape – This, yet again, is a perspective on the importance of awareness, choice and mindset.
3. Focus on the process - Susan mentioned, “We get caught up in the outcome.” But when you can focus on each step of the journey, it will pull you into the present and you will enjoy it all a whole lot more.
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